Have You Tried Being Likeable?; Chronicle of Higher Education, 7/24/12

Allison M. Vailloncourt, Chronicle of Higher Education; Have You Tried Being Likeable? :

"“But I am not trying to be liked, I am trying to get things done,” she responded.

“Think of what you could accomplish if people actually wanted to help you,” I replied.

What advice have you given to students or colleagues who delight in making others feel small? Have you seen excessive arrogance hold people back? Do you have any tips for gently increasing self-awareness in others? Do you ever engage in fake niceness in order to get things done?"